The Not So Blaze-A Poem

We’ve been reduced to regurgitating memories and feeding on phantoms

To hoping old fires could spark from melancholy fuel

I kept it alone

You lay beside the flame with empty hands
Driving need, some desperation

You took the heat

I did the work of two…. singing, stoking

Keeping such a flame too long, too alone…i turned


You grew

I gathered

The fire cannot be pacified
Yet cannot burn without fuel. It can destroy abandoned

Wounded, Before consumption, I.found my portion …. relit my solitary flame

Tendrils of chill
Ushered in the dark
That cold stole through you
You sought me
Accusing eyes for the keeper of your flame

The flame you would not feed

We’ve been reduced to “remember when” and “back then”

Recalling the beacon that loving created

That apathy killed


Untitled Poem

my mouth sought to slay the elephant in the room
but the cacophany of silences were pervasive
in my eagerness for understanding, for release
I sought him while he sat at that dead end
flicking bits of world from his shoulder and muttering to himself
my presence seemed offensive, disrupting his agony w/ my own
and he paled at my love, flinched from my trembling touch
saw my scrambling to be close as a threat
i slid through his fingers onto the floor
should i go?….and he yanked me back coldly
and i, wedged between pain and longing
stopped singing
feared the open sky more than the hated cage

A Boy Is Dead, His Racist Killer Free And White People Want You To Grieve Correctly & Give Them A Thumbs Up.

father and sonTrayvon Martin’s killer george zimmerman was found NOT GUILTY last night and the black community is lamenting…wailing it’s desolate loss, this is confirmation of our lack of humanity to this society. The black community is asking where justice is in this “post racial” nation. Black parents are wondering what they can possibly do to protect their black babies from attacks like these. The hopelessness in the face of this verdict is thick and pervasive and in the midst of it, there is such an outrageous anger, a feeling of VIOLENT DISGUST and it’s fall out. That fallout in which many white people have cheered and slapped this racist child murders back, invited him to talk on their shows and spewed such hatred about “niggers” and what we deserve, and baited us about how we do not REALLY care about black children that are murdered. They’ve suggested that black people die everyday, at their own hands and we dont care about that either. And in the face of that, a few of us grieving black people have said things like “i hate white people” , an HONEST and deeply hurtful feeling to express, a valid representation of the pain and the fear of being black in a white supremacist society. What happens? Suddenly all the white “allies” come out of the woodwork to tell these black people how “wrong” it is to hate them…….so the death of a black boy is about the white people who empathize?

Tell me….when was the last time black hatred for white people saved a black life? Why is it that black people cannot have ONE HOUR, ONE MISERABLE FUCKING HOUR to grieve the loss of Trayvon and the loss of his justice? Why couldnt this be about US, black people, for one day? Why do we have to watch our mouths so that white people dont get offended? Why do we have to acknowledge that white people are sad too? WHY DO WE HAVE TO PAT WHITE PEOPLE ON THE BACK FOR HAVING A CONSCIENCE when they cannot possibly comprehend what we have LOST throughout history and what this verdict means to our lives and our children’s lives NOW? I got so many “i am a white woman and i cried my eyes out over Zimmerman’s verdict” tweets and responses, that I was ready to flip my shit! WHO GIVES A SHIT ABOUT YOU? Why is this about you? The fact that you can be sad about this one moment and send your child to the store in a hoody the next, without wondering if they’ll ever make it back, is a PRIVILEGE. One that I and other black people do not have. But you want us to stop our crying, you want us to stop being angry, you want us to sit quietly and listen to you regurgitate Martin Luther King quotes about darkness and light, you want us to APOLOGIZE for saying we hate you…..the nerve….the unmitigated GALL. You call yourself an ally but you are stuck on PRIVILEGE, the privilege you have to wake up with the complexion for the protection and never have to worry a day in your life about losing your child for their skin color. But you want to shut black people up because they hurt your feelings?

You want us to stop crying and pander to you, coddle you for saying you care, or even for genuinely caring. But this is not about you, this is not about you caring or you marching or you picketing, it is about the fact that the grieving response of a black person takes precedent over your FEELINGS about someone saying they hate you. A hate that has no oppressive power but apparently hurts your delicate sensibilities. You should ask yourself why you actively sought to address a black person, the night of this verdict, for saying they hate white people. Why addressing them was more necessary than acknowledging what said black person lost and giving them time to grieve. You should ask yourself why you decided to give that black person a talking to instead of one of the other white people calling Trayvon a nigger and laughing and baiting black people for being upset.

I’m not fucking here for it, there are some great white allies who have STFU and refused to take the “i hate white people” statements personally, because they know that this situation is not about them, they do not need to defend themselves, they do not need a pat on the back for rallying behind the black community. These white people have my ultimate respect and my love, too often do white allies DEMAND attention for being allies, demand whatever cause they take up with black people ultimately shine the light on them, these are the allies that can KEEP their “support”.

Being Held Accountable For Online Dirt, In Real Life

  1. FatFemPinUp
    do you think ppl should be held accountable IRL for the things they post on social networking sites?
  2. FatFemPinUp
    there seems to be this SHAME in addressing someone IRL over something they put online…as if their online life were out of bounds
  3. FatFemPinUp
    so ..if you’re online flirting or bashing someone and a family member or a your significant other address you for it….they’re in the wrong
  4. FatFemPinUp
    what i dont understand is this: your online persona is a public expression of yourself, y do u think u shudnt be held accountable for YOU?
  5. FatFemPinUp
    there’s alot of cheating that goes on, online, a lot of racism, sexism and hate speech, a lot of planning and plotting against others
  6. FatFemPinUp
    but somehow people….men specifically think that the whole internet is vegas, and what happens on the internet stays there 0.o #notso
  7. FatFemPinUp
    you shouldnt go to the internet to have a private life
  8. FatFemPinUp
    if you’re going to scheme….and you dont want to answer for it IRL, you prolly shudnt tweet about it, i dun care WHO is “stalking” ur page
  9. FatFemPinUp
    your significant other gets online and catches you calling someone else baby and “the one” and all u can say is “stop stalking my page”
  10. FatFemPinUp
    instead of tryna work it out… paint them as crazy and meddlesome….tryna hold you down, stalking you, obsessing……oh….oh ok
  11. FatFemPinUp
    but thinking that you can openly tweet about some dirt you are on IRL and still be above reproach is ridiculous
  12. FatFemPinUp
    i got mad at my …whatever the hell he is…for calling this girl his “prototype” …its a nickname he calls me…and it has significance
  13. FatFemPinUp
    to him and to me…it goes to a person being everything that you ever wanted in a mate…a model for what you need/want/deserve for yourself
  14. FatFemPinUp
    called another woman that….and im like …wait…so there’s more than one of us? so aint shit special about that? OH….
  15. FatFemPinUp
    or is it bc i am a woman and you are a man ..and you want the freedom to run game on everyone you come in contact with… accountability
  16. FatFemPinUp
    and another thing….ppl get on the internet and expose themselves to be these REAL SHITTY individuals….and DARE ppl IRL to call em on it
  17. FatFemPinUp
    and when you do….U’RE in the wrong? lol just some more of those patriarchal power games, where blatantly wrong men can make you look crazy
  18. FatFemPinUp
    and they gang up on women too! in order to protect their “right” to do internet dirt….one dude says “bitches are crazy for stalking my
  19. FatFemPinUp
    twitter, facebook etc. page” ….and other men hurriedly agree, bc if they unite behind that dude, then they gain more freedom online
  20. FatFemPinUp
    that’s how patriarchy works…get all the men in agreement…and all the women fighting each other, and the men rise to the top controlling
  21. FatFemPinUp
    then there is this message sent that “good women” who keep their men, dont hold them accountable for the things they post online
  22. FatFemPinUp
    good women dont ‘stalk’ their significant other’s pages bc they have class or bc they trust them or bc ignorance is bliss
  23. FatFemPinUp
    but am I stalking you if i take a look at your twitter/facebook page once every few weeks to see if you posted any new pics? am i really?
  24. FatFemPinUp
    am i stalking you if we had an awesome weekend together where i came from out of town to see you, and want to see if you mentioned it?
  25. FatFemPinUp
    am i stalking you if this is the first time i’ve EVER addressed anything you’ve tweeted, bc it hurt me or disconcerted me? no. I am not.
  26. FatFemPinUp
    men are very quick to throw around the controlling image of the fem stalker who, stays on their internet pgs all day, waitin for em to fk up
  27. FatFemPinUp
    you find yourself agreeing with my TL…..even just occasionally….#youmightbeafeminist
  28. FatFemPinUp
    All I’m really saying is …dont think yu can say hurtful things online, pursue other women openly online….and not answer for it IRL
  29. FatFemPinUp
    EVERYONE…..everyone has to answer for their behavior….the internet is NO exception
  30. FatFemPinUp
    now….no one has a right to POLICE your behavior…online or offline…but there’s a difference between policing and holding u accountable

The Slander Of The Side Chick

  1. FatFemPinUp
    i’m not willing to suggest that men do not know the pain they cause women they lead and hold onto with faux promises and lies for USE
  2. FatFemPinUp
    i really think they dont care…and what disgusts me about this sidechick shit…is that people gleefully scorn and shame women who get hurt
  3. FatFemPinUp
    by manipulating men who say one thing……and do others, with others….and come back to do them too
  4. FatFemPinUp
    like men/women will laugh and say hateful things to women who have been hurt by men who use them for sex and hold them captive with lies
  5. FatFemPinUp
    as if she’s just a stupid hoe, as if she deserved to be manipulated…as if her time and her life and her love were not valueable and stolen
  6. FatFemPinUp
    under false pretenses…as if the pain of being betrayed by someone you’ve brought your love too were hilarious and deserved
  7. FatFemPinUp
    but men can do no wrong…it doesnt matter if he lied to you, kept u hidden to use you, it’s your fault for not reading his mind, for being
  8. FatFemPinUp
    too stupid to not see that he had a “real” wife/girlfriend/lover ….you deserved to be taken for everything you got and given nothin back
  9. FatFemPinUp
    there is no pity for a woman who has been touched by what I believe Ntozake Shange meant by a “latent rapist”
  10. FatFemPinUp
    some1 who comes into ur life to use u like an emotional tampon, snatch ur love, ur sexuality and ur secrets w/o reciprocity thru lies
  11. FatFemPinUp
    this is the CENTRAL problem w/ Tyler Perry’s rendition of “for colored girls” in that he made the ‘latent rapist” in her poems a physical 1
  12. FatFemPinUp
    i dont believe she meant a man who comes into your house and steals sex….no…a latent rapist is a man who comes and steals who u ARE
  13. FatFemPinUp
    and he puts it to use in his own life…..while holding off your needs with promises and the occasional sweet word….and bc male love
  14. FatFemPinUp
    is so hard to come by…..women often get suckered in by male cunning…disguised as love and affection…this self seeking entitled
  15. FatFemPinUp
    attitude towards women where men COLLECT them according to what they need in their lives….and string them along with lies n promises
  16. FatFemPinUp
    to find out you have been one of these women…..and the person you LOVE, would give anything for is really this “latent rapist” ….you can
  17. FatFemPinUp
    the response to this side chick shit is very much like our cultures response to rape, find fault with and blame the woman
  18. FatFemPinUp
    i feel this pain so vividly bc i’ve been and may currently be an unwilling sidechick, jumpoff…whatever you call them….us
  19. FatFemPinUp
    and if i am?….who will laugh at me? for all the tweets i tweeted…soaring on love…hoping in the possibilities of it? planning? boasting
  20. FatFemPinUp
    about the man like he was imperfectly perfect and made for me? who will laugh at me for sharing my dreams of children with the man, and
  21. FatFemPinUp
    finding healing, sanctuary and growth with the man….never thinking for one minute it was a lie
  22. FatFemPinUp
    who will laugh at me if it turns out that the love i busted my ass to have..left my dreams on the side of the road for….forgot my past for
  23. FatFemPinUp
    was love only in name to him……and that name a means to an end? who will ridicule me for loving deeply, unconditionally, loyally
  24. FatFemPinUp
    the answer of course is….MANY….even now no doubt someone is seeing these retweets thinking “that fat bitch shud be GLAD to be a jumpoff”
  25. FatFemPinUp
    like being lied too and used is something i deserve for being a woman, for taking a risk, for any ol reason under the sun
  26. FatFemPinUp
    and even in my PAIN & loss they will expect me to be grateful for the opportunity….
  27. FatFemPinUp
    so seeing that tweet….bout made me cry…girl talkin about having sex w/ a guy 2 days b4 xmas and not even getting a merry xmas text
  28. FatFemPinUp
    while she’s thinking that they are together…. his silence on the holiday indicates that she isnt
  29. FatFemPinUp
    u see ppl on twitter all day long making jokes about how side chicks shdnt expect anything on bdays n holidays or invites to fam functiosn
  30. FatFemPinUp
    because women who have been lied too and used are labeled “side chicks” ….and it is all their fault
  31. FatFemPinUp
    for me ….sex has always been something i was disgusted with myself over…then is started to love someone and i began to enjoy it, only w/
  32. FatFemPinUp
    him….and what if it turns out that ….he is not who I thought he was….that the love making was one sided and he paid only lipservice
  33. FatFemPinUp
    and used me? you know what sex may represent for me then? you know how hard trusting and touching in the future will be for me?
  34. FatFemPinUp
    we’re encouraged to be tough about sex, exceedingly liberal or supremely prudish….but the truth is sex represents alot of diff things
  35. FatFemPinUp
    for alot of different people….and for me….it was painful….a source of self hatred and loathing that i practiced seemingly wantonly
  36. FatFemPinUp
    and when i stopped….when i got a hold of my self destructive ways and claimed my sexuality for myself and NO ONE ELSE….I started to love
  37. FatFemPinUp
    and i love now….and if it turns out to be a lie…i wont be destroyed…but sex will no longer be revolutionary to me, it will be as it
  38. FatFemPinUp
    was…..and love will only be a sight for empowerment….when its done platonically and within the confines of family. And im to be
  39. FatFemPinUp
    shamed if all of this comes to pass, i’m to be laughed at and ridiculed.
  40. FatFemPinUp
    and this isnt a pity party….really….i want to know…..y this is ok….y collecting PEOPLE, using them all up and spittin em out is ok
  41. FatFemPinUp
    cuz i can tell you right now…there is no humanity in a “latent rapist” ….there is only self seeking consumption
  42. FatFemPinUp
    anyways…i’ve always loved Ntozake Shange’s choreopoem “Latent Rapist” from For Colored Girls, hate that movie bc its a man’s intepretation
  43. FatFemPinUp
    and it comes out entirely too literal and its a very bad representation of those poems…there’s nothing spiritual or revolutionary in that
  44. FatFemPinUp
    movie……only brokenness, tragedy blech i hate it

Think People Hate Fat? Lemme Show You How Much.

Well as you can see…..people truly…TRULY hate fat…The language in these tweets is abusive and hateful so I’d like for you all to be cautious in case it triggers any harmful emotions in you. What is it about fat people that makes it socially acceptable to wish death on them? By virtue of their size alone? I was called a fat bitch..told to kill myself….I never attacked any of these people, they hate me for having a fat body …and not cowering. What is it about fat people that thin people are afraid of? To those of you who take up space, be it apologetically or unapologetically…..I salute you for your courage….imagine being a teenager or a child and being subjected to such hatred? If I didnt truly believe that I am beautiful the way that I am….that fat looks good on me and I have naught to be ashamed of….these other people’s opinions would consume me, I would obsess over them….and I would learn to hate myself more than anything else in the world. Ahhh But I do…I love being fat….I love bouncing around the world, i love taking up space, I LOVE the way my lover looks at me in all my naked glory…I love my cellulite and my double chin…I love my fatty thighs and my wide feet, I love my muscular calves and my jiggly arm fat…I love my muffin tops……I love me. And for some reason…alot of people cannot STAND it. I got over 300 mentions today after I tweeted that picture of myself w/ that caption……And I believe even more than ever that having fat is nothing to apologize for, I believe that being thin is not virtuous or brave. Too many thin people would have you hate yourself for the sake of their notions about beauty and health. ….without ever considering that you could be a healthy fat person, without ever considering that you dont want to be thin…..without ever considering that you dont have to answer to them! That your body is not subject to public opinion but rather it is YOUR OWN. I am saddened to see so many people who are slaves to stereotypes about weight, who let the FEAR of fat make them hateful to their fellow human beings and obsess over their own bodies in their private lives. These people lashed out at me……because I said I didnt want to lose weight…..How dare me, HOW DARE ME make a decision about my body that goes against everything they know and love about obsessing over beauty and faux health, how dare me not bow down to ideal images of thinness and how dare me not go along with the false ideologies about how all thin people are healthy and all fat people are unhealthy. HOW DARE ME, be me? The HAES research has proven that you can be healthy at any size, that health only CORRELATES with weight….HOw dare me take after role models who are sportsman but FAT instead of main stream sportsman who weight cycle and yo yo diet trying to reach the perfect LOOK. I am Nicci….I do what I want with my body…I eat what I want….I exercise every other day (running on an elliptical)….not to lose weight but instead to release stress and increase my physical fitness…I refuse to bind myself to a number on a scale…..and because of that? The below tweets have been spreading like wild fire. I dont hate thin people, not at all (see my fat vs thin negative dichotomy post), but I am truly disgusted with the fat bigotry, the concern trolling (feigning concern for a fat person’s health in order to take their power from them), the unmitigated gall…And I am ashamed that other human beings could stoop to this level …luckily for me….I am a cultural critic….and I’ve taken this opportunity to share with to take it personally but show you THIS is what I mean by fat hatred, fat discrimination….THESE are the people who dont hire fat people, who overlook fat people when they are sick and attribute their health problems solely to their weight (causing death or increased sickness) THESE are the people….the doctors, the receptionists, the dog groomers …who disrespect, ignore, abuse and ostracize fat people…..without a care for how their behavior effects other people….THESE are the people who will discriminate against a fat person for being fat. I am nt making this unsavory shit up. 
  1. JuChainz
    Pound cake, deep inside u wanna lose wait..stop quoting Wale “@FatFemPinUp: FAT is a physical characteristic, it is NOT a state of BEING.”
  2. \\
    Then Your name is Pound Cake “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  3. Sexy mama!!!! 😉 RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  4. Is this healthy? RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no im not trying to lose or gain weight
  5. Looks like she ate the monster truck RT @kylegotjokes: Did a monster truck ride across your back? RT “@FatFemPinUp:”
  6. vexedmentals
    you are disgusting. – RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight…
  7. You cause tsunamis when you jump in pools RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  8. RT @lickmyfro: how high can you jump RT @KiP_RMFD: Is this healthy? RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no im not tryin to lose or gain weight
  9. 450 tho and u not thinking about losing “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  10. Lmao RT @DarthVenn: back it up big guhl RT”@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight″
  11. Get the fuck off twitter please RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  12. No chill RT “@JuChainz: Then ur name is Pound Cake “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  13. You built like Grimace RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  14. U acting like you got a choice smh RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  15. So u weigh more than Vince Wilfork? Oh.–>RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  16. U need to that’s unhealthy “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  17. Sideways RT @Gohan_J_Solo: How’d you get in that room? smh RT “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs im not trying to lose weight”
  18. Looool “@Dneiper: Sorry RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
    Dead in 2 years tops RT @LachellewDavis: RT @FatFemPinUp: you fat and i dig your confidence but you dont … (more)
  20. theBlu_truth
    @fatfempinup please just stop projecting ur insecurities on our time lines!
  21. Tush_Sabbie
    Lmaoooo RT @divatooxtreme: Looool “@Dneiper: Sorry RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im (cont)
  22. You gone be dead in less than 10 yrs RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  23. Lol… “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  24. And why the fuck not? �� RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  25. She said y not,lol| RT @ShaunaSayomi WHY NOT? RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs*&no im not trying2lose or gainweight
  26. HoeStopLyin
    PATHETIC BITCH RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  27. Tht mirror struggling to contain you RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  28. You built like a bean bag tho RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  29. You goin ta hell an icant wait RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  30. You look like you ask for 3rd’s RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  31. You’ll prolly kill a nigga iif they touched ya food RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no im not trying to lose or gain weight
  32. You’re gonna die RT @Durags4Eva: RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  33. So this is why twitter is over capacity. RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  34. Ya thighs look like Mashed Potatoes RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  35. Someone suggested you gain? RT @FatFemPinUp 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  36. What Knees? RT @_Jefe1_: Your knees look backwards. RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no im not trying to lose or gain weight
  37. X_____x RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  38. What Neck ? RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no im not trying to lose or gain weight
  39. RT @kylegotjokes: You must enjoy heart attacks RT “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight”
  40. ID HIT THAT RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  41. Young_sims
    That’s what she said. RT @DiscoveryKiid: @Young_sims @smocahontxs @FatFemPinUp its so large. How did it fit in the picture?
  42. RT @kylegotjokes: This can’t be life RT “@FatFemPinUp: oh yeah…….whose been a bad bagel?”
  43. Whelp, time to go. RT“@kylegotjokes Did a monster truck ride across your back? RT “@FatFemPinUp:””
  44. JaeesusChrist
    I admire how @FatFemPinUp posted the picture and took the criticism so positively. The world needs more people like you ��
  45. Can I have whats in your fridge when you die ??? RT “@FatFemPinUp: 450lbs im not trying to lose or gain weight””
  46. RT @kylegotjokes: Did a monster truck ride across your back? RT “@FatFemPinUp:”
  47. “@kylegotjokes: Did a monster truck ride across your back? RT “@FatFemPinUp:”” DAMN…..SMH SHE WRONG FOR THAT LMAOOO
  48. RT @kylegotjokes: This can’t be life RT “@FatFemPinUp: oh yeah…….whose been a bad bagel?”
  49. RT @kylegotjokes: Did a monster truck ride across your back? RT “@FatFemPinUp:”
  50. RT @kylegotjokes: This can’t be life RT “@FatFemPinUp: oh yeah…….whose been a bad bagel?”
  51. RT @kylegotjokes: Did a monster truck ride across your back? RT “@FatFemPinUp:”
  52. RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs *shrugs* and no, im not trying to lose or gain weight
  53. RT @lickmyfro: how high can you jump RT @KiP_RMFD: Is this healthy? RT @FatFemPinUp: 450lbs and no im not tryin to lose or gain weight
  54. RT @kylegotjokes: This can’t be life RT “@FatFemPinUp: oh yeah…….whose been a bad bagel?”
  55. RT @kylegotjokes: This can’t be life RT “@FatFemPinUp: oh yeah…….whose been a bad bagel?”

Woman Denied Plane Access, Dies 407lbs <—-I have a bone to pick–abc-news-topstories.html

Above is an article that describes the story of a man who lost his wife because he could not get her home from their vacation because of fat discrimination on airlines. …..I have something to say.

I see a serious problem attached to privilege in this world… is by pure privilege that you are one of the people who comfortably fit on air planes….there are alot of people who dont…..extremely tall ppl (6’7), large people (body builders), sumo wrestlers (extremely healthy athletes) …they dont deserve to get on air planes and fly by virtue of their size? what about anorexics? they have an eating disorder….(which by the way is more like a mental illness than an issue of self control) but bc it causes them to grow inward….they are allowed on air planes? I’m sick to death of the people who despise fat people…constantly attributing their size to over eating (when they dont know WHY that person is obese), ascribing personality traits and characteristics to total strangers (laziness, greed, stupidity)…simply bc they LOOK a certain way.  I do not know the particulars of why this woman didnt seek a doctor in the country she visited but i do not question her right to travel abroad or her desire to go HOME to seek treatment. Especially with all the stigma world wide of fat people who are sick, you cannot trust any doctor to treat you…..even then, no one has a right to question her desire for treatment in the place of her choice OR her desire for a vacation with her husband, deteriorating health or not!

The fact of the matter is she was denied ACCESS to the only means of travel, for life saving treatment bc she was not skinny and THAT is discrimination based on size. You can blame her all you want too, call her fat, blame her for going on vacation, blame her for not getting treatment in her vacation spot, blame her for being sick and suggest she shud have done something more morally acceptable to avoid being in her predicament but you would be speaking from a place of ignorant bigotry if you did. No one tells people who are handicapped that it’s their fault they dont have access to buildings that serve the public ….if they can’t walk up the damn stairs to get service…there is this false assumption that every fat person is fat as a result of some moral failing. Firstly not every person who is fat has a problem with food, some of them have physical issues that cause them to gain weight. Basically not all fat people are over eaters! uch. And those who are? do you know what bingeing without purging is? it’s an eating disorder, like anorexia …but because it makes people fat, it is not looked at as a disorder…instead people speak hatefully of it, ascribe behavior to it and approach it as a moral issue instead of a psychological issue. Every fat person that has any problem of any kind brought it on themselves because they failed to be skinny and that is simply FALSE and sickening. Check your fucking privilege, you do not know everything about a fat person just bc you can SEE that they are fat. I”m so sorry this man lost his wife in part because of the airlines bigotry and I hope they pay out the ass for it. It IS the airlines responsibility to accommodate the public, no matter WHO that public is. Too many people are willing to excuse the fact that airlines make seats as small as possible, based on a model of human size (as if every human being were objectively between 4’11-5’10 and no more than 150lbs) in order to save money….yet they charge out the ass for tickets no matter WHO is riding….the airlines are also the only ones with the power to take someone country to country in ALOT of cases….so YES, they held the life of this woman in their hands….and the fat stigma is backing them right now but they are WRONG! UCH. Also, was it a question of giving her more than one seat and slightly under booking the flight? If so…why wasnt it done? Or even delaying the flight for a few ppl, considering the health of this woman? according to the article..they got her ON the plane then made her disembark for the “safety” of the other passengers…….i dont like that shit, not one bit

I’d also like to add that the majority of my rage is on the comment section of this article, the fat shaming from the general thread initially had me lit but the fact is that the airline told this man to let them know when they’d be flying back so they could do what they’d did before to get this woman home and somehow…….SOMEHOW they couldnt?