Since when is it ok to decide you are an advocate for victims, then turn around and use that same platform of advocacy to threaten or wish harm on someone with what you are fighting against. Several women on Twitter, after the grammy’s began to tweet about Chris Brown, they said some rather outlandish and ignorant things…most of which were along the lines of “I’d let Chris Brown beat me” ….yes…it is disturbing to hear women joke about domestic violence, it is disturbing to see how casual and callous people are towards the victims of domestic violence…so much so that they could joke about it. I was disturbed to see that people thought because Chris Brown is talented and handsome, what he did was acceptable…..acceptable to the point that it is ok to joke about wishing he would do it to you. That is disturbing, ignorant and misguided…..but do these women deserve to be threatened with violence, murder or rape? No. It is NOT acceptable to threaten or wish rape/death/violence on someone in the name of protecting another from those exact horrors! First off, it’s hypocrisy, will you become the devil in order to stay the devil’s hand? It makes no sense! Becoming who you’re fighting in order to fight them is LUNACY. But beyond that….becoming the devil to fight people who have never actually done anything physical to who you’re protecting is stupid. YES!! Call them out on what they are saying, correct them, inform them, call them assholes or idiots but do not threaten or wish death/rape/dmv on to them!
If we are fighting for the victims then we do not have to wish the horrors our victims have faced onto people who are callous about their victim hood. In the example above, these women were not the ones who smashed Rihanna’s face. They were callous about referencing it in a tasteless joking manner. It would be more accurate if you wished domestic violence on Chris Brown because HE IS THE GUILTY ONE or …was (I think people can truly reform or be rehabilitated) but wishing it on miscellaneous people who joke in favor of Chris Brown’s behavior out of ignorance? NO. Not Ok.
This Chris Brown thing is just an EXAMPLE, I have no desire to discuss Chris Brown. I used him as an example but my major point is that we do not wish/threaten people who say stupid or ignorant or callous things about victims or in favor of perpetrators. They are not guilty of the crime, they are guilty of ignorance and they do not deserve to be raped or beaten for their words. If you MUST, wish/threaten the person who ACTUALLY DID THE CRIME with those things. An eye for an eye type deal, but people who aren’t even involved who just come in after to talk shit shouldn’t be silenced w/ these kinds of hateful threats. They should be educated.