Really? “Big girls need love too” ? I fucking hate that phrase. You know why? Because it’s really saying: In addition to regular women that are acceptable to society and generally “normal” big girls just so happen to want and need love too. Surprise, surprise, they live and breathe and experience a breadth of emotion outside of hunger! You know what else it says? It says someone call in the love squad because after all the regular people are paired off we still need to take care of the big girls. Now that doesn’t sound like love to me, it sounds like OTHERING. It sounds like a chore, a duty, an unpleasant task that has to be done….I don’t want to be anyone’s task, anyone’s chore. Fuck that.
And when a man says “hey big girls need love too” to me, its like he is saying : while you might not deserve it as much as a thin or normal woman, i recognize your need for love and I’ll have pity on you and give you my attention. KEEP THAT SHIT. I am a human being, I’ve never met a human being that didn’t need love, whether they were big as a duplex, thin as a pole, handicapped, a person of color, queer or heterosexual, never have I met ANYONE who didn’t need love in some form or another to survive. yet you get people who feel its their job to remind the world that while big girls, big PEOPLE might not look like they DESERVE love, they surely do underneath the feature that is fat is a real person…….Its fucking stupid. Oh and let me just say that while people PRETEND that thin is the height of attraction for every person under the sun its complete bullshit. Attraction is subjective. There isn’t one person that is pretty to every person on earth. Not a one. Thin and Fat are just physical identifiers and people are “attracted” to other people’s physical identifiers. And not all are attracted to thin. I think its pretty shitty how society tells the world that the only type of woman worth mentioning is the thin or athletic type of woman, making the men who find fat, thick, chunky and chubby girls feel like they have to conform or be outcasted. And damn! they do conform! They fuck us because they are attracted to us, but they date the socially acceptable woman who is thin….fucking conformist slaves.
But alas I digress, the point is that yes I need love, but I don’t need love from anyone who thinks its a chore or they are doing a good deed by loving me. You dont get any fucking karma points for shaking your dick at me. While the stereotype may say that big girls are easy and insecure I AM NOT. I take care of my own needs, and the people who love me, and those I love do not see loving me as a charity